Seven Things I Am Grateful For (About My Husband!)

I was barely 19 on my wedding day. Barely.

Excusing their divorce, many people say, “I married young. I’m a different person now.” But, when I think of my relationship with my husband, I smile at the thought of how we not only grew up together but that we’ve grown together.

In a few short days, it will be our 11th wedding anniversary.

Real Zest is asking its readers to, “write up a list of things you’re grateful for.” I can’t think of a better opportunity to note the things I appreciate and admire most about the love of my life.

1. He knows what he believes and why.
When Tom speaks or writes, it’s never with wishy-washy words. It is direct. It is confident. He rarely offers a thought without much consideration, and he considers everything. Knowledge, especially about God, is a passion for him. Not only does he study works of those whom he agrees with, but of whom he is opposed. He inspires me to want to learn more and to think more — not just open my mouth absentmindedly.

2. He knows how to relax.
A little over a month ago, he asked if I wanted to go to Jamaica — just the two of us. I said, “Yes, but…” and he said, “Don’t worry, my mom’s watching the kids. I’ve got the details covered.” From the lovely beach, to the tasty food (and unlimited alcohol) to a luxurious hotel room, our recent getaway was phenomenal. When he’s not at work, Tom brings laughter with him. He plays games with the kids in a playful, yet competitive way. He insists on my taking off my apron and sitting down and relaxing with him for a late-night movie. He reminds me to take time for myself, and volunteers to watch the kids. “Here’s some cash. Go out with your girlfriends and have fun.” How cool is that?!

3. He takes an interest in his children.
When he comes home, he asks what our children learned. He carefully looks over their papers and asks questions. If they want to pursue a project or idea – like making cheese or learning about a particular event in history – he makes sure they have the information and supplies to explore their thoughts. He is patient when he teaches them, carefully noting what they understand, and where they need more encouragement via the whiteboard. He knows how to bring out the best effort in their work. He makes me desire to be a better teacher.

4. He provides for his family.
Stewardship is very important to Tom. He invests his money, and plans for our future. He takes care of our needs – from groceries to home repairs. Although I have a tendency to be a miser, he makes sure that I never have to feel guilty for asking for money. He knows how to stretch money, and he researches his purchases carefully. His diligence in our finances helps me to want to do my best with the resources entrusted to me.

5. He challenges himself.
When he starts to freak out in full SCUBA gear, he collects his thoughts and tries again. If he has an opportunity to get a new certification in information security under his belt, he studies diligently so he can pass. He always strives to do better and to set new records. Bejeweled is no exception. Tom’s tenacity helps me to keep trying, even when I feel like giving up.

6. He is supportive of my interests.
He makes sure I have time to study for my childbirth classes (even watching our children for a week while I went to Florida for my certification), and that I have all of the books and materials I need. He knows I love to write and encourages me to concentrate on my topics and study more about them so I can write from an informed perspective. If I ask for seeds for my garden, he helps me put together a budget and makes sure I have everything I need, even down to lovely planters I’ve had my eye on. He sends me emails with ideas and links for things that have been on my mind. Tom’s support gives me freedom to be myself and to maintain my identity as a person — making me easily contented to be called “mommy”.

7. He makes me blush.
He knows how I love to be touched, and it delights him to please me. From not-so-innocent brush-bys to putting his arms around me and kissing my neck while I’m working in the kitchen, he always makes me warm to my toes. In the middle of the night if I get up to help one of our children, he instinctively wraps his arms around me in his sleep as soon as I hop back into bed. He holds my hand in public…. even in Japan.

What seven things are you grateful for? Post them at Real Zest ASAP for a chance to win a $100 Zappos gift card :)

What do you love about the love of your life?